Posted by F@i | Posted on 11:43:00 PM | Posted in
Friendship is definitely one of the most indispensable experiences of life. If you ask anyone around you if they have friends, surely their response will be one of shocked incredulity. The truth is, everyone has friends, whether not all of the close friend or category, but certainly of the friendly type.
Friends are important for several reasons. Firstly, they provide the kind of emotional support that family cannot give during out turbulent growing-up years. During this time, we often feel that the family cannot fully understand what we go through. Friends of our age are the usual recourse that we have when encountering problems in our love lives or studies. Even after we have graduated into adulthood, friends still prove to be powerful sources of emotional support. They listen to our lives, whether we are young and impressionable or experienced and wise.
Secondly, it is important that we make friends because they can help us in our most troubled times by simply listening or even providing companionship. Some of the best memories of life are those spent in the raucous company or quiet confidence of friends. Furthermore, friends are the first people we practise our social interaction skills on and most certainly refine such abilities.
We make friends first and foremost in the most natural way, i.e. when we meet new people. By a look or smile or even a simple greeting, we open the doors to friendship. Of course, there are people who are painfully shy. But just one party making the first move is enough. So even the shyest person ( just like me, haha ) will encounter people who are willing to make the first move.
Friends are also made through introductions by existing ones. In social gatherings, we usually meet other people who are strangers but quickly introduced to us because of mutual acquaintances. Although such friends may not end up being our good friends, a wider circle of even just casual friends is essential to our sense of well-being.
It is precisely because making friends is such a prevalent activity in life that is important to take note of certain things. Some people become our friends merely because we are useful to them in some way. For example, I had a friend who was deeply hurt when she realised that someone had made her acquaintance only because the latter had wanted to tap her knowledge on a difficult subject before the examinations. After the examinations, the person completely broke off the friendship without a word. It was a sobering experience for us all, for people can have ulterior motives when courting our friendship.
Another important consideration is the compatibility of our friends with us. After all, it is important that we share common interests rather than force ourselves to adopt attitudes or preferences that are not our own. If friendship becomes far too contrived, it is unlikely to last long. As such, it is essential that we are honest with ourselves and other people in making friends.
Making friends can be one of the most rewarding experiences in life. But too rosy an expectation of friendship can be dangerous as it may cause disillusion and great unhappiness. Like every other experience in life, one must always be ready to take the good with the bad.
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PS : I've no idea why I have such intuition to write these things ( included the previous topic - discipline ). Don't ask~I also don't know =p
Friends are important for several reasons. Firstly, they provide the kind of emotional support that family cannot give during out turbulent growing-up years. During this time, we often feel that the family cannot fully understand what we go through. Friends of our age are the usual recourse that we have when encountering problems in our love lives or studies. Even after we have graduated into adulthood, friends still prove to be powerful sources of emotional support. They listen to our lives, whether we are young and impressionable or experienced and wise.
Secondly, it is important that we make friends because they can help us in our most troubled times by simply listening or even providing companionship. Some of the best memories of life are those spent in the raucous company or quiet confidence of friends. Furthermore, friends are the first people we practise our social interaction skills on and most certainly refine such abilities.
We make friends first and foremost in the most natural way, i.e. when we meet new people. By a look or smile or even a simple greeting, we open the doors to friendship. Of course, there are people who are painfully shy. But just one party making the first move is enough. So even the shyest person ( just like me, haha ) will encounter people who are willing to make the first move.
Friends are also made through introductions by existing ones. In social gatherings, we usually meet other people who are strangers but quickly introduced to us because of mutual acquaintances. Although such friends may not end up being our good friends, a wider circle of even just casual friends is essential to our sense of well-being.
It is precisely because making friends is such a prevalent activity in life that is important to take note of certain things. Some people become our friends merely because we are useful to them in some way. For example, I had a friend who was deeply hurt when she realised that someone had made her acquaintance only because the latter had wanted to tap her knowledge on a difficult subject before the examinations. After the examinations, the person completely broke off the friendship without a word. It was a sobering experience for us all, for people can have ulterior motives when courting our friendship.
Another important consideration is the compatibility of our friends with us. After all, it is important that we share common interests rather than force ourselves to adopt attitudes or preferences that are not our own. If friendship becomes far too contrived, it is unlikely to last long. As such, it is essential that we are honest with ourselves and other people in making friends.
Making friends can be one of the most rewarding experiences in life. But too rosy an expectation of friendship can be dangerous as it may cause disillusion and great unhappiness. Like every other experience in life, one must always be ready to take the good with the bad.
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PS : I've no idea why I have such intuition to write these things ( included the previous topic - discipline ). Don't ask~I also don't know =p
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